If you are locked down, it can be very lonely being cooped up at home alone, if you are in a single person household.It might have been bad enough before lockdown, but during lockdown it is more isolating, and very difficult to meet people socially.
For some singles, you might have to consciously guard against feeling down. Others may relish time alone. Its horses for courses.
If you are feeling down, then you need to occupy yourself and your mind, so sit down and set yourself a list of goals and activities. Each day, make a point to call someone, to have a chat, whether phone or online.
This following link is a revealing study – watch this video as it points out the brains of lonely people are wired differently to people that live in multiple households.
My suggestions and strategies to guard against loneliness
Meet your friends online, using chat and video links, social media to interact with people.
Even church services can be found online.
Get a pet, and talk constantly to it, outpour love to this devoted pet. or if you are not allowed a pet in your digs, find something or someone to express positivity to, regularly. It may be weird to some talking to a cat, but its all about what springs from your mind, and what comes out of your mouth, that impacts your state of mind. So even if you talk lovingly to a plant in your house, you are emitting positive vibes, and your brain is keeping in practice. Of course, talking to people in a positive way is the ultimate way to keep you healthy, as well as maintain your mental wellbeing.
Join a group online to participate in, it could be for any hobby or social club. It helps to be doing creative things, or just have someone to talk to in a positive way.
We are lucky not to have lockdown here in Auckland. I have just joined a 13 week Art course, in my local area. Its lots of fun and I am meeting new people, and learning new skills.
If you can join a voluntary organisation to help the needy, that is a good way to take your lingering negative thoughts away from yourself. Maybe organisations aren’t working at the moment, so watch out when you go shopping and if someone looks in need, reach out to help, as it takes the focus off yourself. One small step is good.
Realise you are not the sum total of your thoughts. You can reign negative thoughts in with focus, encouragement, and training. It is important not to continually dwell on the past that you cannot change, nor the future that hasn’t happened yet. Instead, cultivate living in the “Present Moment, accepting what is, then going within to get in touch with your inner peace.”
You may live with others, yet still be lonely. Then it is time to participate in activities that soothe the busyness of the ego and mind. You may want to be alone, and are happy without company, but eventually we need the stimulation of others. While forced to be in isolation, you could assign some time for prayer or meditation.
We all have God within us, that our higher self can tune into, with a little guidance.
Some people are not believers and that is fine, do whatever works for you.
I thoroughly recommend reading Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now.
“The soul is your innermost being. The presence that you are beyond form. The consciousness that you are beyond form, that is the soul. That is who you are in essence.” – Eckhart Tolle.
“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it.” – Eckhart Tolle